1. You know exactly what you want.
There is none of the messing around that inevitably accompanies dating when we’re young. We go through a lot of trial and testing as young daters, because we’re still searching for the right type of person to suit our personality, a personality with which we ourselves are vaguely familiar.
At 40 a few of us may have been married once, maybe we’re already parents as well. We’ve finally now grown into the person we have always been aiming to be, having blossomed out of the personality development stages of our life.
While we had been going through this kind of natural change, it was difficult for us to really settle down into a routine of life, owing to the headstrongness of innocent youth (with someone else along for the ride). As we advanced both in age and experience, the calibre of our relationships needed to change. Some people are blessed to have swum against the tides of these very difficult changing times together, to have reached the shore as a solid team. This unfortunately is not true for everyone.
For most, having finally grown into themselves, they are therefore ready to find the person they know would complement them, their life, the people in their life, and the general style of living with which they are accustomed.
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