Because divorce is so readily available and the new age stronger woman is now contented with a different kind of “semi-committed” relationship, it is easier for men, who still do the majority of the proposals, to take longer to do so if at all.
Has this 21st-century wave of much coveted, en vogue independence really worked in our favour, or has it served to show our male counterparts that we find them slightly redundant and don’t need them to commit to us? When they finally pluck up the courage to do so, (and like our great grandmothers, most of us still wait for them to) are they proposing for the right reasons? If not, unlike some of our female ancestors, we have the option, the freedom, and the following reasons to decline the offer.
1. Does he just want to stop you from leaving him?
Wait to say yes if he is proposing just after a major fight during which you threatened to leave. He is merely employing a desperate measure to make you stay put in a relationship that is obviously fraught with issues. If he really means it he will ask again.
2. Is it because he feels guilty after cheating.
Be suspicious if he proposes soon after you discovered that he’s cheated. He is simply feeling guilty and obviously knows he’s messed up big time, so much so that he takes a reckless gamble at the only thing which he thinks might appease you, a flippant proposal. Later, he might be regretting it as you show off your diamond ring, but by then it’s too late for him to back out. Needless to say, this is not a recipe for a successful marriage.
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