Relationships Not Built to Last

Breaking up is such a thorny thing to embrace, and it seems as though women take it so much harder than men. We don’t seem to be able to find the same iron-will to overcome the hurt as men do. Instead, we fall down around our feet with a certain desperation that cries, ‘Life is over now that I’ve loved and lost.’ I know because I’ve done it too.

In one of my older articles entitled 10 Sure Ways To Get Over Him, the common trend through more than two hundred comments, seems to be about a total collapse over relationships that could have been. In some cases, women (all anonymous, of course) wrote to me concerned that the unfulfilling relationship – which has been on the rocks for ages – has suddenly ended.

Not all relationships are made to last. Some of them run their courses well, while others hiccough along the way, struggling to make it to the predestined finishing line. Regardless of which one we’ve been handed, the finish line is the likely end to a race which was run with the sole intention of just that – ending.

Enjoy your relationships, but when they come to a natural end, recognise this and will yourself to move on. It’s difficult, I know. But if we purpose to strive forward with our lives, the steps we take after a break up will lead towards healing – obviously! On the other hand, if we keep thinking about ‘what could’ve been’ with a relationship we knew was littered with bruises, we’ll fall into a deep, dark pit of continuous hurt. It’s up to us, really.

The link above offers some great help in dealing with a break-up. Some of the questions from women all around the world (and responses from me) may give you some answers to finding your own solutions.


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2 comments:

Judy Sheldon-Walker October 14, 2009 at 2:37 AM  

Some people are just lazy and relationships take WORK!

Anne Lyken-Garner October 14, 2009 at 10:34 AM  

Exactly! Judy. People have got to be prepared to put a lot of themselves into a partnership. Taking only leads to trouble.

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Anne Lyken-Garner is a published author, editor and freelance writer. Her specialities include relationships and confidence building. You can find her inspirational memoir here.
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