It’s great to be yourself! How much greater and more enjoyable would it be if you had to spend 24/7 with a better you. Here are a few suggestions to help make yours a relationship everyone wants to keep.
Practice in self-investment enhances growth and development in the same way that physical exercise builds muscles after time. The following exercises enrich our personality and make us better for doing them, so go ahead and indulge!
Let the person with the child in the back seat have the parking space you spotted first. It means the same to them as it would to you, if you were out with your child. Sacrifice of self alleviates the soul of greed and petty worries about material gains. Done often (like the people who volunteer at soup kitchens) self-sacrifice threatens to cure it almost entirely.
Even when you’re in a hurry, if you’re in your car, stop and allow pedestrians walking in the rain to cross the street. There is no guarantee that the cars behind you will stop unless you do. Forcing ourselves to wait, even when in a hurry, develops patience.
On paydays buy a take-out meal for someone you think may be struggling (a person who’s just lost his/her job, a widow/widower, or a house bound neighbour). Not only will this help to give them a bright spark to an otherwise dull life, it’ll make you feel as though your wages have been fully and completely earned. We all have days where we don’t do as much as we can at our work places. Finding time to balance this out, helps us to feel less slothful.
Pay for the stamps the pensioner beside you at the post office is rummaging in his/her wallet for change to buy. Giving a little helps us to feel better about the many ways in which we overspend on ourselves. Putting a smile on someone else’s face goes a long way to putting joy in our hearts.
Offer to go to the weighing-in with someone who’s trying but struggling to lose weight, or offer to join the group with them. All they need is a bit of encouragement. Being a good friend, even when we don’t feel like it cultivates within us, care and concern for other people. Even if your heart is not into it at first, like with everything else, practise soon becomes perfection.
Send flowers now and then to a friend who is single and finds it hard to date. On Valentine’s day, send him/her chocolates and a card. This one is just to be nice. Soon you’ll be thinking of lots more fantastic ways to be a friend.
Share something close to your heart with a friend who’s struggling. Sometimes we need to hear about other people’s problems to put our own in perspective. We tend to think we’re the only ones suffering out of the circle of our friends. When we hear about other people’s problems, ours don’t seem so depressing after all. It’s only human nature.
If a friend is having a wedding or sadly, a funeral, offer to transport their visitors or provide a couple of meals if you can. This goes a long way with someone who has a lot on their plate. Be dependable - someone people know they can always trust to be thoughtful. Let your name, when thought of, conjure up dependability, practically and honesty.
Have a “bashing” day for a friend who’s just suffered a break-up. If you’re a girl, invite her girlfriends over (if you’re a bloke, you may have to promise the blokes a slap-up meal to tempt them over). Have a good rave of all the men you all have ever broken up with, or those who’ve left you. Organise a safe place to burn old pictures and little tokens of his she may have kept. Let her weep and have a good old cry all around. You’d be surprised how much this helps everyone involved. It’s great to enrich your funny, mischievous side and what better way to give vent to it than with someone you care about.
If you pray for or do something good for a person you do not like very much, you’ll find the dislike you feel ebbing away with every good deed/prayer. If this is someone you have to see every day (colleague e.g) feeling better about this person would do you more good than it would them. Just to prove this wrong, try it!
What other activities do you do to build up your personality and to improve who you are? Please share them with us in the comment section.
Anne Lyken-Garner is a published author, editor and freelance writer. Her specialities include relationships and confidence building. You can find her inspirational memoir here.