What Is Love

What is love? It's a question we attempt to answer with feelings and emotions. We think of butterflies in the stomach, about desire, lust and perhaps even the physical act of love. What many people don't attempt to describe when asked this question, is the practical side of what love is. 

Surely, if indeed love was just the feeling of butterflies and a chemical attraction, these phases of the love phenomenon would last for longer than it does.  

What love does
we feel alone and deserted
Many people feel alone and deserted without love in their lives, left alone like the unused barn above to become overgrown with bitter weeds and thorns, and overrun by a desolation which completely fills the soul - clouding over every existence of light. I'm not just talking about romantic love. We get love from friends, our kids, and our relatives. 

What is love? It's standing with and for the people in your life, tending to them and making sure they know you're always there when they need you. Love is not leaving them to battle for themselves. Love is sharing in their bad times as well as good. 

What love feels like
the appearance of love brings sunlight to the soul
Spending time with people who care about you gives your soul a lift. They listen, give advice, extend a helping hand and give you a hug or a pat on the back. They laugh with you and take your hand. Jesus demonstrated He could heal someone from a distance when he healed a little girl in a far-off village. However, we see time and time again, that He physically touched people at the point of healing them. Why? Why didn't he just keep his distance and do the job? Our friends' touch can bring light and life to the flesh - just a little cuddle to say they care.
What is love? It's certainly not just about reciting love quotes. It's spending time with someone and caring for them while they heal. It's giving them a cuddle when they're sad and taking valuable time out of your own life to bring some sunlight to theirs when the clouds appear. 

What love is
love is new growth, when decay persists
Scientists have taken to studying what love is. Dumb, right? One of the 'findings' is: (quote) '...a very primitive, basic human emotion, as basic as fear anger or joy....' (unquote). I disagree. Totally! Love is pure and innocent - not basic and primitive. Love can grow out of nothing. It's new growth to a 90-year old who touches his great-grandson and holds his little head in his dried-up, arthritic hands. It's new growth, and life- giving to the 75-year old woman who's fallen in love for the third time in her life. 
What is love? Love is making sure the person on the receiving end does not suffer. It's hurting when they hurt and making them laugh when they're blue. Love is beautiful. Love is positive action. Love cannot be measured by a love calculator. It's free and is given without conditions. 

So the next time you say, 'I love you' to someone think about what you're really telling them. You're pledging not only your heart, but you're saying I'll never let you down, I'll always take care of your interests, and I'll never hurt you. I'll sacrifice the things I need if you need them too. I'll always do right by you. When I don't like you, or what you're doing, I'll still act in your best interest. When I've fallen out with you, I'll still be there when you need me. 
You may also be interested in the  5 love languages defined.

What is love or what do you say love is?
Love: 1 Corianthians 13.


Icy BC October 8, 2011 at 12:37 AM  

Beautifully written, and love is a wonderful thing to have in our life.

Self Sagacity October 9, 2011 at 10:29 AM  

Very nice post Anne. Love is the reason we go on everyday. It's hard to find true love and unconditional love, but it does exists.

♥~Judy~♥ October 11, 2011 at 12:58 PM  

"love"ly post. I love my children, grands, friends, pets, writing, church, and husband but the loves are so so different!

Good luck with moving over to wordpress if anyone is up to it, it is you.

Take care and God bless!

Anne Lyken-Garner is a published author, editor and freelance writer. Her specialities include relationships and confidence building. You can find her inspirational memoir here.
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