Being by yourself is going to be difficult so it's important to keep busy and engaged with life. Taking up a new hobby will keep your mind focused and enable you to learn new skills and qualities. It will also help you meet new people, which for some reason only becomes harder as we get older. Relationships are usually centred on work or family life, but embracing a new hobby or class will throw you into an environment with people of similar interests.
Remember it’s not all about the new. It’s just as important to maintain the relationships you already have. This can be difficult after a divorce if you share friends but don’t let it affect your whole life. Make time for your old friends and join a reunion site to reconnect with those you’ve lost contact with over the years. See here for advice on how to fall back in love once you're ready to step from the old and into the new.
Use the free time you have for yourself and don’t be afraid to be selfish once in a while. In a marriage it’s easy to let things go both physically and emotionally when it comes to the things you enjoy doing. Join a gym or exercise class to stay fit and learn to cook healthy food. Taking pride in your appearance will give you confidence and prove to your friends and family how well you’re doing. Confidence-building help is just a click away. Be bold enough to grab it!
If you haven't had a date in a while, don’t panic. Focus on your interests, and spend time in the places you like. It is in these places where you're most likely to meet a person who shares the same interests. Whether that's a favourite restaurant, class or theatre show, who knows, but there is someone out there just for you. Just remember most of all to relax and enjoy yourself. The last thing you need is to dive head first into another serious relationship, so learn to love your own company.
This was a guest post by Sarah Leeds (with some input from me).
If you're a woman in your thirties and can benefit from some relationship help, this linked one is a fantastic article you should read.