How To Bond With Your Baby

The relationship you have with your child is one of the most important relationships you will have in your life. It is a relationship that begins when your child is just a baby. 

In fact, it is a relationship that can begin before your baby is even born – as there are many ways to bond with your baby during pregnancy and after.  There are a number of ways you can start bonding with your baby to help your relationship start strong. 

(This is a guest post by Dana Vicktor) 

Bond with your baby through eye contact

Eye contact can help you connect with your baby just as it does with other people. Take time out of your busy schedule to slow down and really connect with your baby. Look into her eyes as you talk with her or play with her. Show her that you are really present with her.

Bond with your baby through skin-to-skin contact

 From the moment of birth, skin-to-skin contact with your baby helps promote a strong bond between you. Breastfeeding is a great way to bond with your baby through skin-to-skin contact. It is a special time that you can share with your baby to both nourish and comfort him.

If you cannot breastfeed, or do not wish to, simply cuddling your baby is a great way to build your bond through skin-to-skin contact.

 Bond with your baby with co-sleeping

Co-sleeping with your baby is one of the best things you can do to form a secure bond and help him grow to be more independent. Your baby doesn’t have to sleep in your bed to co-sleep. Your baby can sleep in a crib or cot right next to your bed, or you can even buy a special co-sleeper that hooks to the side of your bed.

 When your baby sleeps near you, you can respond to her cries more easily, offering comfort or nourishment as needed and getting more sleep. It also helps you to build a stronger bond more quickly, especially if you work during the day and cannot be with your baby.

(From Anne: I don't advice sleeping in the same bed as your baby. This can result in horrible accidents, including involuntary baby-smothering. Paediatricians also think that it's unsafe for babies to breathe in the second hand breath of parents who've been drinking and/or smoking.)

Bond with your baby through baby wearing

 In the same way that keeping your baby close to you at night helps promote a stronger strong, so does keeping your baby close to you during the day. Wearing your baby in a sling or other carrier not only helps you to get more work done while caring for your baby, it also helps you to bond with your baby. Keeping your baby close strengthens your bond and helps him to become more securely attached, thereby helping him to become more independent and confident as he grows and develops.

You don’t have to spend every moment of your day attached to your baby. However, wearing your baby in a sling when you are moving about your house or running errands is a great way to keep baby close and promote your bond while also keeping up with the things you need to do.

Use one-on-one time to bond with your baby

Just like the other people in your life, spending special one-on-one time is a great way to bond with your baby. You can use this time to play with your baby, talk, coo, laugh, or make funny faces and gestures. Use soft touch, rubbing your baby’s back or head, stroking her cheek, or holding her hand. All of these things will help you to promote a stronger bond with your baby, and as she grows, she will look forward to more special one-on-one time with you.

Your baby wants very few things from you: To feel loved and to have his needs met. Giving these things to your baby will help you to form a stronger bond with him and make him feel more secure and grow into a confident person.

What other ways have you been able to bond with your baby? Tell us your experiences in the comments. Read our additional articles about your relationship with your baby on this blog. 

Dana Vicktor is the senior researcher and writer for Her most recent accomplishments include graduating from Ohio State University with a degree in communications and sociology. Her current focus for the site involves early pregnancy signs and pregnancy week by week.

Anne Lyken-Garner is a published, author, editor and freelance writer. Her specialities include relationships and confidence building. You can find her inspirational memoir here: Anne's memoir 


Anne Lyken-Garner is a published author, editor and freelance writer. Her specialities include relationships and confidence building. You can find her inspirational memoir here.
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