How Do I Find People

How do I find people is a question easier answered than it was 10 years ago. Finding people can be a breeze even if they don't want to be found. If they do, then there's no limit to the information you can garner on the web these days. The relationship blog concentrates not only on love relationships, we also publish articles to help you with the relationship you have with your family and friends, your relationship with your children, and even have a collection of articles addressing the relationship you have with God. Now we want to help you find the relationships you once had with people who meant a lot to you in the past.

There are several easy ways to answer the question, 'how do I find people'. We'll look at some of the obvious searches you should use in this article. But beware, there can be complications when you find people who don't necessarily want to be found - by you. There may be issues with your own family and circle of friends as well when you find people you've lost in your life. We look at some of these issues and how to properly deal with them. Note: this is by no way an extensive article on how to find people. We're just covering the easiest ways you can find someone on the Internet.


How do I find people

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how do I find people who were once precious to me

How do I find people on Google

One of the first places to go if you're looking for people is on Google or another search engine (if you're not on Facebook) because many people have made sure they can't be found on social networking sites. We'll use 'John Smith' (replace John Smith with your person's name in each example) as our chosen name. In your search panel type in "John Smith", "Facebook" in exactly the way it's expressed here. If the person you want to find is on Facebook, you'll be able to find him/her there, even if you're not on Facebook yourself.

  • Note: If you know the person's middle name it'll be easier to find them. 
  • Many people don't have profile pictures visible to people who're not yet their friends (on Facebook). If you can't see their profile pictures you may not know if the John Smith you've found is the John Smith you're looking for.

How do I find people on Google using the 'image' option

In Google, look at the very top of your browser page and you'll see the word 'Images'. Click on it. Using our example above, type in the person's name you're looking for within quotation marks. You should see several images showing you occurrences (with pictures) of all the John Smiths Google has listed. Chances are, you'll find the person you're looking for. 

How do I find people on Facebook

If you're on Facebook, this is the obvious place to look for people. (Please note that some people have made themselves invisible on Facebook). In the search panel at the top of your Facebook page, (it's the small white search panel - top centre/left) type in the name of the person you're looking for. You will get several options, but look in the description for the places in which you think the person may be living, or the company with which he/she might work. If you don't find your person in this way there are other ways to find people on Facebook.


How do I find people on Facebook if they don't show up in my searches

Please consider that the person you're looking for doesn't want to be found. Remember you don't have to search out the people in your past, you always have the option to meet new people - at places like Badoo at Badoo.com. If you still want to find people on Facebook, there are a couple of other ways to do so (to find people who don't show up in your searches).

  • Find someone in their close circle: their kids/parents/siblings. Click on their 'Friends' list and look for the person you want.
  • Find the company for which they work on Facebook. Click on their 'Likes' list and look for the person you want to find.
  • A less sneaky approach is to contact a friend/family member of the person you want to find and send them a private message explaining that you want to make contact with the person you've lost. 

How do I find people on Twitter

If you have a Twitter account, here is one of the easiest places to look for people - better yet if you have their email address. Supposing you don't have their email address, sign into Twitter. Go to your search panel and simply type in a name or an email address. Most people have their actual profile picture, and because there aren't as many 'John Smiths' as there would be on Facebook, your search is easier and quicker. This is the way I use to find people. For me, this take less time. 

Other ways to find people (less used)

There are other minor ways you can use to find people. For example, in the UK you can go to the Direct Gov. website (this is quite a definitive list). You can also look for people in the electoral register, Salvation Army Family Tracing Services, National Archives, Friends United, Zoom Info, and ZabaSearch. 

Disadvantages to finding people in your past

The wife of a close friend of mine left him after 35 years of marriage. She found her first boyfriend on Facebook, struck up a relationship and ran off with him within 3 weeks of finding him again. What she didn't consider was that he was no longer the fun-loving 15 year-old she stole kisses with behind the bike shed. He was not the skinny attractive, blonde boy she went to the school disco with. He was now fat, bald and had massive family baggage: 2 ex wives and spoilt kids who hated him. 
Within 2 months she was ready to come back home, but for my friend - who was incredibly hurt - it was too late. He wanted nothing to do with her and neither did the kids. 

What do I do when I find people

  • Make sure they want to be found - by you. 
  • Don't expect an instant love-connection - even with long lost relatives. They don't know you. It takes time to build up a relationship.
  • Don't leave your present life to enjoy this new virtual connection. This is all it is - a virtual connection. Your real family and friends still need you to be you. 
  • People change. You have and so have they. You may not have anything in common with them any more.
  • As the person who 'found' the other, be careful you're not pushing the issue. They may just want to be nice, but want nothing to do with you. 
  • Last but definitely not least: you've lived without them for all these years. You can live without them now.
If you enjoyed 'How do I find people' please share it on your social networking sites. What other ways have you used to find people and what do you think is the best way to go about doing so? 

Morganne Leigh writes about healthy mind and living  for  http://lifecell-anti-aging.com  



Anne Lyken-Garner is a published, author, editor and freelance writer. Her specialities include relationships and confidence building. You can find her inspirational memoir here: http://getconfidence.net/annes-memoir/

7 comments:

Judy SheldonWalker August 29, 2012 at 2:55 AM  

I have looked for someone numerous times but have had no luck. It was someone I knew in the military. I even signed up for an online account for awhile to help me search. Thanks for the tips and warnings.

Anne Lyken-Garner August 30, 2012 at 12:31 PM  

You're welcome, Judy. Have you ever tried the Government census website?

ChopperPapa September 3, 2012 at 5:53 PM  

Facebook is unbelievably dangerous. All it takes is the proper emotional state, mixed with a pinch of reminiscence, and Viola!!! a life altering decision

Harleena Singh September 4, 2012 at 5:08 AM  

That's an informative post about how to find people!

I remember how my old school friends found me through Facebook by just typing my name and looking me up on Google as well. But yes, sometimes, just as you mentioned, it can be become a problem, especially when relationships have become estranged and you have moved away from an earlier relationship.

Thanks for sharing. :)

Icy BC September 7, 2012 at 9:34 AM  

I have use mylife.com to look for a dear friend, but as it turned out, I have to sign up first..I look on FB and found her, but never could get in touch.

Thanks for pointing out the dangerous part of searching.

Anne Lyken-Garner September 7, 2012 at 2:14 PM  

Hi Leena. You're in many places on the internet, it would be hard NOT to find you :-) With all the work you've done writing, etc, I'm sure it's easy for friends to find you. Hope you're well.

Anne Lyken-Garner September 7, 2012 at 2:17 PM  

HI Icy,
Yes, some of the sites require you to sign up in order to look for someone, but not all of them (thankfully).
Some people seem to sign up to Facebook and never return. I suppose it's possible for some people to never receive messages on FB because they've never looked, and have never requested to be told by email either. When I first joined FB, it took me a year to actually upload a profile picture or to even use it properly. :-)

Government sites like the census ones are usually pretty good for that sort of thing.

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Anne Lyken-Garner is a published author, editor and freelance writer. Her specialities include relationships and confidence building. You can find her inspirational memoir here.
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