Why Guys Dump Girls

'Why Guys Dump Girls' will look at relationships from a man's point of view for the very first time! Here at the Relationship Blog we talk about several general kinds of relationships: relationships with family and friends, relationship with your kids, with your babies, the relationship you have with God and spirituality. However, when it comes to the romantic relationship, we've always focused these posts from the woman's perspective. Today we have a guest post by Dennis Do - a  young MALE blogger. He'll give us the male perspective as to why guys dump girls. Take it away, Dennis! (Did I say he was male? :-)

Why guys dump girls: a young man’s prospective


Guys will break up with girls, and girls will break up with guys. It's inevitable and - unclear why this happens sometimes.  While I cannot speak for women, I'll do my best to represent the younger man's prospective. So what makes a guy ever want to dump a girl?
The truth may be cruel, but younger guys have yet to see the whole world. We feel we have not yet explored the hundreds and thousands of potential mates and this makes us 'itchy' sometimes. Relationships that start at a very early stage are usually not taken seriously. They end up being a fun experiment where both the male and female discover themselves more - or so we think. 

Note: these are my opinions and are only written for your consideration. They should not taken too seriously. Now that I have my little disclaimer set on the side, here are reasons that may make a guy want to dump his girlfriend.

Guys dump girls because of another girl

There's usually (though not always) another girl involved in the picture. This new girl could be someone who has the favorite attribute the guy admires. For instance, personality, hair color, eyes, body size, and so on.
For the most part, money or possessions won’t make a guy break up with a girl. Finance will play a huge role in the relationship later, but not now. While we're in our 20's, starting a family and proving a stable income is one of the last things on our minds.

Guys dump girls because they cease to be fun

Our girlfriends are boring. A gal who is outgoing and shares similar things in common is necessary. Someone who isn’t afraid of being adventurous will make a relationship more exciting. You don’t have to be the next person to climb the highest mountain, or surf the biggest wave (although that would be a bonus), but just don’t be afraid to try new things with us.
A girl who'd rather stay home and not get involved with us defeats the purpose of a companion. Activities can involve small things like going to the gym or getting grocery together.

Guys dump girls when they find out they're dull

There is something about talking to a brick wall that doesn’t seem fun anymore.
Being around a nice, hot-looking young lady is great and all, but it gets old after a while. There is something more to a companion than just looks. I know this is slightly unbelievable, especially from a guy’s prospective, but it’s true.
I'm not saying looks aren't important (they are - to a young guy) but that can only keep a relationship going for so long. Girls tend to lean towards guys who're more affectionate, rather than great-looking ones (correct me if I’m wrong). Us guys will eventually sway towards the intelligence department too. Quite frankly, looks isn’t everything. It gets the foot in the door, but that’s about it.

Guys dump girls when they're too clingy

Sometimes we just need our space.
This is one of the big reasons why guys dump girls. When you interact with someone attractive, and there is a spark, you’d want to keep the moment going. Then all of a sudden, that attractive person says ‘I need to go” What happens?
I remember a time when I was attracted to this girl. For the first few days, we kept in touch about everything. Each day I received a good morning text (which was great waking up to) and got to know her more and more each day.
Afterwards, the contact between us became redundant. Not only did I know too much about her at this point, the attractiveness subsided because I knew her too well. A lot of guys like it when girls keep a little  mystery to keep the attractiveness level high.
I’m not saying that I don’t like interacting with the opposite gender, but sometimes a little space and wondering does the mind good.

Dennis Do is the founder of Self Exceed. He talks about anything relating to self improvement - which comes from his personal experiences. His advice tends to lean on the humorous side. He can also be found on his YouTube channel and various social media sites.


Harleena Singh September 18, 2012 at 6:48 PM  

Informative post!

Although I knew why girls dump guys, it was interesting to read about why guys dump girls!

I guess there can be many answers to your points and in some ways somethings even the girls would dump guys for. For example, I always thought guys liked when girls get clingy, or perhaps it depends from one guy to another and what he might like.

Similarly, girls might dump guys because they get dull or are no longer fun to be with, or if he goes with another girl too! It could be either ways I guess.

I guess what matters most is that girls and guys learn to understand one another in more ways than one to have a long-lasting relationship.

Thanks for sharing. :)

myletterstoemily September 18, 2012 at 7:37 PM  

this is funny . . . and sad but true.

Dennis Do September 19, 2012 at 12:53 AM  

Hi Harleena, glad you found my post helpful!

It all really depends on the person and the type of girl he likes. I will let you in a secret though, I like a girl being clingy to some extent. It's great at first (because it shows that she cares) but afterwards, it becomes a little too much and that's where the line needs to be drawn.

@myletterstoemily, I was afraid of sounding like one of those guys who dumps girls left and right, but I promise you I'm not :) Just trying to expose reasons why us guys may break it off with a girl.

ChopperPapa September 21, 2012 at 2:18 PM  

I think it's far deeper. Speaking from personal experience, when I think back to my relationships in my 20's I believe they boil down to two things.

1. I had no idea what I wanted at the time outside of a pre-described physical appearance. My desires changed as frequently as the wind.

2. Most of these younger men are able to think, just long term enough, to see down the road to where she might end up. This is especially so if he has met her mother.

Your examples are spot on in the early stages of a relationship, but as it progresses I believe it becomes far less bourgeois.

Anne Lyken-Garner September 23, 2012 at 3:49 PM  

I love the example of 'meeting her mother'. The first time I met my husband's dad I had a good, old look at him. I tried to remember all his features because I knew (from the look of him)that my (future husband - at the time) would look exactly like him. I don't think I was far off. He's looking like him more and more as he ages.

Thankfully, my husband's dad looked great for his age. I met my cousin's wife's mother for the first time recently. To be honest, I didn't know how much he loved her (his wife) until then. Her mother is amazingly unattractive.

Dennis September 26, 2012 at 4:10 AM  

ChopperPapa, you pretty much hit the spot. I did mention that being a youngster that I am, I have no idea what I want yet. My view tend to constantly change, but as I get older, I should be able to decide for myself by then.

Keats The Sunshine Girl October 3, 2012 at 1:32 AM  

I think guys and gals will dump for the same reasons. If he/she is just having fun, then there are no surprises in store! As we mature, we can make better decisions.

Self Sagacity October 23, 2012 at 8:37 PM  

I am glad you kept it "real." I have heard, some guys won't go out with a girl because they might not have the same outlook on life...like they don't drink...it could be difficult if there is never a moment of "relaxation."
All points in your post is noted. smiles.

Anne Lyken-Garner is a published author, editor and freelance writer. Her specialities include relationships and confidence building. You can find her inspirational memoir here.
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