How To Get Over Him Forum

I've got a thriving forum about getting over relationships that are particularly hard to forget. When someone very close to me recently lost her loved one for no apparent reason (other then he just walked out), I was deeply affected but couldn't share this forum advice with her, because she won't talk about it.

I'd been away for a long time, but signing into the column again made me realise how many women struggle  with giving up the men who've left them behind. Of course, I've had some men contact me too, but by far, the women have outnumbered them. Here I'll share some of their stories (changed slightly).

Here's what Maria said - and my answer. What would you say to her? NB. Names have been changed.