I'd been away for a long time, but signing into the column again made me realise how many women struggle with giving up the men who've left them behind. Of course, I've had some men contact me too, but by far, the women have outnumbered them. Here I'll share some of their stories (changed slightly).
Here's what Maria said - and my answer. What would you say to her? NB. Names have been changed.
This is great advice, however, what if it’s been 2 years and the person still consumes your thoughts daily - even though you want to forget him, what do you do? I know it’s unhealthy, but I can’t stop thinking about it, I feel as though I am quietly driving myself mad! I so want to just let go. I really don't need him in my life.
Moving on is hard, but holding on to something that wasn’t yours in the first place is harder. And most importantly, futile. Maybe he’s the only person who’s loved you in that certain way, so you feel that if you let go of him in your heart, you would be letting go of the love and contentment you felt when he loved you.
What would you say?
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