Online dating is becoming more popular, not only is the number of dating websites available increasing at an alarming rate, but so is the range available. There are specialised dating sites specifically designed for particular groups who may face difficulties in the dating world, and results from recent studies show that more successful and long-term relationships are formed online than anywhere else.
Most people join an online dating site, such as cupid.com, to find love, and in their quest for finding love they meet a lot of new people and make some valuable friendships. Though they may not yet have achieved their ultimate goal of finding love, they at least feel less lonely, with new friends that understand the hardship of single life.
I did not exactly grow up as Daddy’s Little Girl. My dad was a hard kind of a guy who really would have been better off not having children. He was busy and impatient and did not really want to be bothered with the day-to-day issues of kids. He did provide a wonderful home for us and made sure we were well-fed and clothed. There are some men that do not even do that so I am very thankful.
(A guest post by Allison)
(A guest post by Allison)
The importance of talking to your kids
Not having any kind of relationship with my dad made it extremely hard for me to have relationships with men - period. My mom was a very loving woman who (in the sixties and seventies) taught me how to have a clean house, how to cook, and how to take care of a husband. She married Dad when she was about to turn eighteen and she herself had come from a home with an alcoholic father. Her father loved her dearly but she spent many of her nights going to find him in the bar before he spent all the money he had earned on drink. So she did not exactly have a lot of relationship wisdom to bestow on me and it was a subject we never even touched upon.
I was very shy and unsure of myself and had a hard time making friends. I usually had one close friend everywhere we lived. We usually moved every four or five years because of Daddy’s work. And when we did, I had to start all over again with that one friend. We moved right after grade school, which went through the sixth grade, then and I started in a brand new town in the junior high school. Boy, did I feel out of place! Junior high (or middle school as they now call it) is sure a hard few years for most kids because they are going through the most changes.
Do you have experience with dating hiatus? Okay, let me start out by telling ya’ll that I am not a naturally social person. Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against people, but I am just the loner type. I am fine by myself and that is a good thing. However, this makes it super hard to find ‘the man of my dreams’. After all, how many wallflowers 'slash' hermits are out and about enough to even meet decent guys?
~ A guest post by Rachel Thomas
The reason for the dating hiatus
I’ll give you a little background to my story. When I was in high school I had one boyfriend who lasted all of six months. Frankly, I only went out with him because he was the first guy to have the guts to ask me out. I broke it off after six months of sporadic dating and for the fact that every time we went out I got sick-to-my-stomach nervous. I figured I was just not ready to date, which was fine.
A couple of years after graduation I kind of fell into pseudo dating with a teacher. He was only four years older than me and I had a bit of a crush on him, so when he invited me out to dinner I thought I’d hit the jackpot. Unfortunately it was a case of the more you know… Needless to say he turned into a big jerk and I backed out of that one fast.
Fed up with all of it I decided that I was going to screen my dates better from now on. I took a long break from dating altogether, due to a combination of family issues and trying to find out who I was and what I was really looking for.
Dating. Just one word which, years ago, would have sent me running for the hills. I ran after relationships at one point and was burnt so badly and so quickly that I gave up. That wall was one I just accepted in my life with a certain hopeless finality. I would forever be alone. I knew that. I planned for that. Every dream I allowed myself to have included no partner. I never created my perfect wedding, named my kids, giggled over babies. I would be, forever alone.
(A guest post by Elizabeth Reed)
I wasn’t even sad about it. I was just burnt out. I had never been in love. I did not know if I could ever be in love. I doubted it. Besides, romantic love is for fools.
Then one day, I woke up. Before I knew what I was doing I was browsing dating sites.
I’m just bored, I told myself. I figured I was just looking for new friends, that it would be kind of fun to go out to dinner with someone once in a while. I claimed I wasn't looking for anything more.
Anne Lyken-Garner is a published author, editor and freelance writer. Her specialities include relationships and confidence building. You can find her inspirational memoir here.