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I’m nearly 19 and have been with this boy for 3 years. Lots of people
have been telling me that he’s been cheating on me and a lot of other negative things
but I never seem to listen.
Lately he’s been acting really oddly. We speak a lot daily but suddenly
he’s always hard to reach. He always says he’s with his friends but when I
speak to them they always tell me he was never with them.
I’ve started to accuse him lately and am becoming really obsessive. My
mom thinks that I should leave him, but I don’t know what to do. He
always denies everything.
Once I saw a text from a girl in his phone and I
called her. She told me he’d been trying to get with her for months, but he
denied everything and even called her crazy.
I don’t know if I could break up with him, he used to be so good to me. He
made me think I was his whole world. I just don’t know what to do.
Relationship help forum: cheating boyfriend - reply
You were with this boy since you were 16. By the time you’re 21 you will have
found that your needs will have changed. Your goals may be different and what
you need from a partner will certainly NOT be the same as when you were 16.
In other words, you’ll grow up and find that you’re over the boy you
fancied when you were a teenager. By the same token, that boy will realise he’s
over you. For you, life is kind and this 'falling out' is happening earlier. Sadly, the boy in
question is not a decent one. He’s messing you around instead of breaking it
I know that at 19 it feels as though you know all that you will ever know.
(I was once 19) But trust me, life throws you so many curves that you soon
realise there’s a lot more to life than teenage adventures.
It’s so obvious this guy does not love you (any more). Do you want to
spend another 2 years being trampled on, or do you want to raise your head
above the dirt and prove to yourself that you’ve got worth! You can and will do
it! This whole situation will make you stronger. I think you (and your mum) already know what you have to do.
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